How often are we left angry and frustrated about what other SHOULD do or not do? Maybe your right!! AND maybe it ultimately brings more happiness and peace to just let people be who they are!! join me on this episode as we focus on setting clear boundaries, learning to say "no," and dropping the head drama as we love people for who they are--perfectly imperfect.
You in the middle of a divorce? Your kid just came out of the closet and unveiled same sex attraction? Many times, life throws us curve balls and challenges come our way. We have no power to change those situations AND THAT'S OKAY!! We hold the power over the perspective we choose to focus on and that's the only power tool we need!
Margaret Arnold is not only a distant relative, but more importantly a great friend. I love getting advice from more mature people who have been through what I'm going through. Margaret has simple and wise advice to help us prepare our kids to be mission ready whether or not they choose to serve. She also has great ideas for supporting them while they serve. There are great golden nuggets here for ALL PARENTS!!
We aren't going to give teenagers car keys without so much as a driving lesson, NOR should we hand them a cell phone without guidelines and lessons on using one safely. Cell phones can be a huge influence for good in our lives when used properly. Let's empower our teenagers to use their agency for their good by lovingly setting rules together and enforcing them.
We don't always have control over our circumstances, but we always have control over how we react to them. Sometimes, we just need to process pain before we find the thought that will lead us back to happiness. Trials are not a speedbump in the game of life, they are an integral part of life. It's how we handle them that defines our character!!!
We are very familiar with the commandments to Love God and Love Thy Neighbor AND we very often gloss over the final part of the second great commandment--love thy neighbor AS THYSELF. We know it is we will be held accountable for how we treat others! Let us not forget, it is equally important how we treat ourselves. It's time to drop the self hate and start loving!
We can learn to love absolutely anyone--even the most difficult person you know! What if you could see that difficult person though God's lens and just love. Unconditionally love them without them changing a thing. In the end, you may decide they aren't a good fit in your life AND you can still LOVE. We have no more power to change difficult people than we do to change the laws of nature. Our power lies in ourselves!
What if we imagine the worst thing that could happen? Then, let's really explore that possibility! Is it actually as horrible as the chatter in our brain wanted us to believe? If we are willing to face our worst fear, there's nothing standing between us and the life we dream of. Now, let's go take some action-there's nothing to fear!!
Resisting emotion is like pushing a beach ball under the water and holding it there. Eventually, that ball is going to come to the surface fast and furiously! Instead of trying to push away our emotions, what if we figuratively dance with them. Let's understand them, learn from them and sit with them for a while. Only then, are we truly able to process those emotions.
In this episode we specifically address rejection with regards to building a business and being a missionary. As parents, we cannot shield our kids from experiencing rejection. What we can do is empower them with the tools to know exactly how to handle it when it happens!
Watching a caterpillar go through the process of becoming can be a painfully long and disturbing process to watch. Yet, it's what the caterpillar needs to pass through in order to reach its full potential. As parents, watching our kids progress can be equally as difficult. Is it possible, the most successful parents are not those who have perfect children, but those who never give up? Maybe the most successful parents are those who love their children not matter how difficult the journey!
As parents, when our children make decisions contrary to those we would have them make, we often make those actions mean something about our competency as parents. Is it possible, our kids are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing? Is it possible, we are exactly the parent that child needs? For better or for worse, agency is part of the plan!
Let's explore together how we can best support our children as they serve as missionaries! Serving as a missionary is hard AND THAT"S OKAY! Growth doesn't come as we hang out in our comfort zone. Our job as parents is never done and is constantly changing as our children enter different phases of their lives. Hang on and keep up!!
Physical intimacy is a element unique to the relationship of married couples. It's a skill that comes naturally to some couples and requires more development in others! In either case, you have total control over your mindset regarding this aspect of your marriage. Choose carefully